When Anger and Grief Become Power

I learned to hide my anger.

It was too loud. Too raw.

It didn’t fit the image I wanted to show.

I learned to bypass my grief.

Too deep. Too heavy.

I thought it made me small.

But what I pushed away

started to lead me.

Quietly. Unconsciously.

Until I no longer recognized myself.

Anger is not an enemy.

Grief is not a mistake.

They are both power —

just unshaped.

Anger shows you where boundaries are needed.

Grief shows you what mattered.

They are messages.

They want to be seen.

I know how easy it is to avoid them.

With work. With distraction.

With “I’m fine.”

But feelings don’t disappear

just because you ignore them.

They transform —

into exhaustion, cynicism, hardness.

One day, I stopped trying to calm myself.

I allowed it.

I cried. I screamed. I stayed silent.

And in all of that, there was life.

Raw. Messy. True.

I realized:

Anger can bring clarity.

Grief can heal.

Both open doors

when you stop slamming them shut.

And somewhere in between,

when I felt everything I had tried to avoid,

this sentence arrived:

I am no longer afraid of fear.

Because it can’t take anything from me anymore

when I no longer run from it.

Because it only wants to show me

where life is still waiting inside me.

Maybe you feel both right now.

That pull in your stomach.

That pressure in your chest.

That mix of “I want to” and “I can’t anymore.”

Then stay there.

Not in the pain.

In the feeling.

Where you stop defending yourself,

change begins.

Where you become honest,

new strength is born.

I walk with people through that in-between space.

Between collapse and beginning again.

Between control and trust.

Not with quick fixes.

With presence. With breath. With clarity.

Anger and grief are not weakness.

They are truth.

And truth is always movement.

Practice:

Take 10 minutes.

Write what you’re angry about.

Or what you miss.

No explanations. No punctuation.

Just write.

Then read it aloud.

And say: This is part of me. And it’s allowed to be here.

That’s healing.

Simple. Real.

Change doesn’t need perfect timing.

Only the decision to begin.

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